Most multimeters have a setting to check continuity, you can use this to check the pin and see if they are crossed or not. If you bought a regular ethernet cable, regular cat5e cable, patch cable, or anything like that, it is the wrong cable. If it's the same type of cable you use to hook up to a hub or router, it's the wrong cable. Anything that actually says, "Crossover" should be right. All your settings are right so things should work.