I am looking at this picture for the JTAG portion

Looks like I just need some wire and these switching diodes?
Switching DiodesI have some 30 AWG wire. Do I need something a bit larger? Oh and what is the purpose of these switching diodes? I am having difficulty finding that information. Is the JTAG connection left in the box once complete?
Then I was looking at buying the flasher from here:
USB SPI Flasher20 bucks seems like a good price. Can't find a link to buy the one you sent. Went to the forum link and just see instructions for how to make one. I am not that good

. Edit: nm. that one I linked to doesn't have a connector and you have to solder the wires to the programmer and the board. That doesn't seem ideal. I will look around a little more for the purchase link on the page you sent.
Lastly, the only soldering I have done on these boards is at the power supply to wire in the fans and I can not get the solder to melt with a 15 or a 30 watt soldering iron. I need to pick up some flux but don't know if this is going to make any difference on the melting point. Are the JTAG/NAND points any softer? I am going to test it out tonight on one of my burned motherboards but I don't want to be holding the soldering iron up to the board for too long.
I remember the original Xbox motherboard having nice solder points that would flow easily.
I decided to post here in the hopes that yours (or anyone else's) answers might help someone digging around in the future since it seems like we're covering about everything to get started.
Thanks !