ok here is what you need to do to get the backlight to work, you have the 5v line running to pad 2. then the shorter wire running to pad 15.
the short wire must to to pad A on the side of the pcb board, which is the 5v line for the backlight and you ground pad K.
and like is said in my first post the reason the contrast is so dark is because.
The way XBMC was coded, for the Xenium LCD, they set the contrast in code (its not changeable from the User Interface). The reason you see the text and such fine when it first turns on, is that is the default setting that the SPI2Par sets, but then XBMC sets it to about 25%. this is stright from GG.
there is a XBE that will correct this problem but the controller will not work in XBMC just the DVD remote.
hope this helps you