The way the harness will come is in two forms.
1 The adapter will be close to the xenium, and the wires will run some 20-30cm to the LCD
2 The adapter will be close the lcd, and the wires will run some 20-30cm to the xenium.
Oviously the 2nd solution is better as it uses less wire.
The wires for the SPI are
SDO CLK GND VCC
But do note 5v is also needed, the SPI does not provide for this.
There are a few methods, LPC port, USB connector, motherboard, hdd connector.
I will probably be using the HDD connector method with an adapter, or the same way I do with the XIR, have a thick wire that inserts into the molex adapter on the motherboard.
The wires for the LCD Are
D4 D5 D6 D7 RS VCC VEE RW <something> <Something> led+ led-
In all it is 12 wires, but RW and LED+ are all repeats of other wires, so the minimal from adapter to LCD is 10 wires.
For reference:
1 VSS GND
2 VDD V+ 5v
3 Vo (Contrast) Check datasheet (0-20k resistor to GND)
4 RS
5 R/W GND
6 E
7 D0
8 D1
9 D2
10 D3
11 D4
12 D5
13 D6
14 D7
15 BGLED Optional-Refer to your datasheet (GND/V+)
16 BGLED Optional-Refer to your datasheet (GND/V+)