to answer some of your questions:
- doesn't matter which d0 you use on the chip (they are connected)
- you disable the chip via the xeniumOS (software controlled)
- Switch should be in the position that the actuall switch lines up with the little white patch below it on the xenium circuit board. Don't worry if you boot up with it in the wrong position you'll get a splash screen telling you to change it.
suggestions:
- power the box up with the xenium off the pinheader and use a multimeter to verify that the correct pins are getting 3.3v and that pin 2 is grounded. I don't remember if pin 9 is powered, but I know pins 8 and 10 are 3.3v. With the xenium on the pinheader and the xbox powered on, you can also check the quicksolder points on the xenium for power (they are connected the corresponding pins on the pinheader.
- you didn't install the pinheader upside down did you? (sorry, I've seen it done, where ppl put the long part throught the board)
- double check your solder job on the pinheader.
-as a last resort, do a quicksolder. Its quite easy.