I thought pin header came no matter what if solderless ordered or not?




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Also, I can understand your greif and pain, but if you put your negative vibes into good vibes, i'm sure you can do it.
If this is your 1st soldering job, I wousl advise practice on something else 1st, old broken computer, vcr, etc so you won't feel the pain if damaged.
As for solderless adapter all on market have issues and eb2k's is by far the best and sell alot more so always looks like there's is the worst but in reality its proven best as sales versus complaints. I suggest reading xecuters solderless guide and xeniums solderless guides, as you can see a few simple mistakes and they don't work, alignment is key and flush to motherbaord.
P.S. RED LED just means 5V and GRD thats it!!!!! So if those 2 only making contact will look as if working , but not!!!! Unless using on pc side, turns off during programming!