OK,
after reading every post in this, (man that took a long time), I have figured out a few hints to my problems from pieces of posts here and there.
A while back a guy named Razor? on here had a problem flashing his drive (the 8163b) Something changed on the drives after june 2005...
they used to be:
HL-DL-ST-DVD
NOW they are
HL-DT-ST-DVD
I have no idea what the difference is, the model number is the same, however the flash program isn't finding the drive. Now Razor? found a flash utility that he was able to flash his drive with, but had problems with windows afterwards, which sounds about right, Menzel mentioned this many times that the drive wouldn't be detected by windows after that, but I wanted to find out, what program he used to flash it with, and what the different between DL and DT is.
Any help is greatly appreciated.