hmm...thanks for all the help guys. its made me think more about it.
such as the 12v ac problem, and it switching earlier or later, whichever, i'd need a bit of help to find. i have a fair skill of electronics but definately not enough to do this on my own, i'm only 17.
some things i have thought about...
the 14v from battery when car is on: i know exactly why this is. when the car is on, the alternator is going which provides the 14v to the battery, 2v more than what the battery will hold so it will charge. you probably knew that but i'd point it out just in case, and for anyone else who wants to know. i'd have to find some way to keep this at 12, unless its not really necessary.
a switch from the power: just in case that 3.3v drains down the battery if the car is not used in a while.
grounding and interference: i would most likely just try to get the ground points from the mobo and run them to the car chassis. is that all i need or more? maybe the black wire from the psu?
heres the setup i plan to have....: i'm gonna get an xbox, toss the dvd-rom most likely as i'll need space for my new custom case/parts holder, all i'll really be keeping is the mobo, modified psu, hard drive and i'll probably redesign the p/e board with just a power button and maybe a single led for when its on and maybe only the first set of controller ports as i won't need them all. just looking to use this for a media player. on my custom case (which im planning to make out of thick plastic somehow) will have the power button and colour lcd screen in the front (no idea about these but will figure out later).
wanna know the funniest part? this setup is going in a '64 mini cooper van (the long ones)

it was my bros and its been handed down to me for when i get my P's in july. theres not much space inside so i'm having to remake the case to fit in the dash cos theres really no other suitable place to put it.
so yeah, if some1 can address the above concerns, it'd be great. thanks!!
and sorry its so long!
edit: added a little extra i forgot about