For now i have used some 1mm stiff art card.
Cut one piece 70mm x 35mm and folded it in half, so it's 2mm thick, and 35mm by 35mm. Did two of these, and joined them together.
The next piece 60mm x 30mm, folded again, did another, joined together.
Because of the fold in each piece, which it doesn't want to do, it pushes up, pretty similar to the force i would imagine of an xclamp.
Seems to be working so far

This doesn't seem right....did you put the screws through the board thing as well? 2mm would be too thick if you were also gonna add 3 more washers. The distance between the board and metal chassis is just about 3.75 mm. so thats part of the reason we used the flat xclamps, they are just under 1mm thick. I cant really picture what you did unless you show a pic or something. Also we didnt want the xclamps pushing up at all really, thats why we flattened them. Any upwards pressure comes from the pad used under the motherboard....foam, handkerchief, thermal gap pad, etc. Also the pad needs to be firm but soft at the same time, so that no fragile components get bumped off under the board.