I've added this diagram to the tutorial which shows you what difference the number of washers makes to the overall result :-

The diagram is obviously over emphasised, as the board flexing no where near that amount graphically (

) but you get the idea.
You can clearly see WHY it works - pressure is put on the
outer BGU connections. The less washers you have, the more pressure you put on it. Remember the X clamp did the opposite, it put pressure on the
inner pins leaving the outer pins to come away from the flexing board (which was not held firm).
I'm just trying to figure out why the 'shim' method worked (3 washers+shim) when the 2 washer method didn't - looking at it now, putting a 1mm thick shim on the die, according to the above diagrams would just make the board flex into a 2 washer design.. Hmm
more flexing, less flexing, perfectly flat?..