Ok, because right now, I am running better heads, better bodies, teleport ring, oasis, bottle mod, Ben Vagaras mod, Blue Glass mod, and I retextured my gold. and those all seem to run fine with each other. I only had one problem with the oasis when I left it and turned around and the mass of the place I guess caused a dde, but it hasn't happened since. I will try out your icon replacer since I don't like any of the stock icons.
edit: Am I the only person who finds it strange that we haven't found a workaround for the 64mb limit, lol. You would think we could find the string that tells it to use 64mb by now.